Patience Patience ...

The more I try to fly the more I feel that I am standing on a marshy land. I keep thinking of all the things happening to me and I feel that I am getting inside the mud and it kind of makes me worried. I feel like a bird flying aimlessly in the sky. I know what I am doing today but I am so far away from my long term goals. Well, in my complete life God has given me so many opportunities to understand that human planning has no importance in front of his planning. So sometimes I really questioned myself that whether I should Plan anything or should live the life as it come to me...A day to day living ..

Sometimes I feel pity on myself and sometime I am angry with me for not trying anything. But when I try for anything things doesn’t turn in my favor (80% of the time). However with a recent happening in my life I completely feel that I should stop trying for any change. It only makes my present more pathetic. I always keep on saying that God has some more interesting plans so he keeps altering my plans frequently. I trust him...He is preparing me for not so good days. Enjoying...I hope I will find my answers very soon..He is only asking me to keep faith and have patience..

Om Sai Ram..

Optimism vs. Pessimism

Recently I attended training on Personal Effectiveness in my company. We discussed the various aspects of Optimism and Pessimism. It was a great learning and I would like to share the insight of it.

How will you read the following statement?

“GODISNOWHERE”

Well, it totally depends upon the individual reading it. An optimist will read “God is now here”, however the pessimist will read it as God is no where. It’s our state of mind which decides our reaction to any situation. It’s up to us to be optimistic and have positive energy to do things or to opt for pessimism and don’t even start that thing. Its merely a matter of choice. It has been found that Optimistic people live happier and longer life then a pessimist people. They are full of hope and they work hard to achieve their goals. On the other hand Pessimism leads to negativity. People lost even before trying anything. These people lacks in self confidence and usually live a life full of guilt and grudge.

Being optimist doesn’t mean that you should be overconfident in everything you do. However you should trust yourself and belief in God. Remember excess of anything is bad and excess strength become weakness in long run. Every lock has its key, we just need to find out which is the right one. And it’s not necessary to be optimistic always, sometimes pessimism also helps. Try to be optimistic in 90% of your job. Things always happen for a reason. Don’t show a reptile behavior of fight or flight. We are human beings and God has given us a brain with one hundred billion nerve cells and its complexity. Utilize it in your life. Think about the problem and face it. Don’t forget what you give will come back to you. Positive things happen to positive people.

Jim Rohn  said, “I found that when you start thinking and saying what you really want then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. And sometimes it can be that simple, just a little twist in vocabulary that illustrates your attitude and philosophy.”

Story of a wise Old Bird

High in the Himalayan Mountains lived a wise old man.  Periodically, he ventured down into the local village to entertain the villagers with his special knowledge and talents. One of his skills was to 'psychically' tell the villagers the contents in their pockets, boxes, or minds.

A few young boys from the village, decided to play a joke on the wise old man and discredit his special abilities.

One boy came up with the idea to capture a bird and hide it in his hands. He knew of course, the wise old man would know the object in his hands was a bird. The boy devised a plan.

Knowing the wise old man would correctly state the object in his hands was a bird, the boy would ask the old man if the bird was dead or alive. If the wise man said the bird was alive, the boy would crush the bird in his hands, so that when he opened his hands the bird would be dead; if the wise man said the bird was dead, the boy would open his hands and let the bird fly free. So no matter what the old man said, the boy would prove the old man a fraud.

The following week, the wise old man came down from the mountain into the village. The boy quickly caught a bird and cupping it out of sight in his hands, walked up to the wise old man and asked, 'Old man, old man, is the bird alive or is it dead in my hands?'

The wise old man looked at the boy and said, 'The bird is as you choose it. It’s in your hands'

And so it is with your life. 

From the Book "Why walk when you can fly...."

Once there was a king who received a gift of two magnificent falcons
from Arabia. They were peregrine falcons, the most beautiful birds he
had ever seen. He gave the precious birds to his head falconer to be
trained.

Months passed and one day the head falconer informed the king that
though one of the falcons was flying majestically, soaring high in the
sky, the other bird had not moved from its branch since the day it had
arrived.

The king summoned healers and sorcerers from all the land to tend to the
falcon, but no one could make the bird fly. He presented the task to the
member of his court, but the next day, the king saw through the palace
window that the bird had still not moved from its perch. Having tried
everything else, the king thought to himself, "May be I need someone
more familiar with the countryside to understand the nature of this
problem." So he cried out to his court, "Go and get a farmer."

In the morning, the king was thrilled to see the falcon soaring high
above the palace gardens. He said to his court, "Bring me  the doer of
this miracle."

The court quickly located the farmer, who came and stood before the
king. The king asked him, "How did you make the falcon fly?"

With his head bowed, the farmer said to the king, " It was very easy,
your highness. I simply cut the branch where the bird was sitting."

We are all made to fly -- to realize our incredible potential as human
beings. But instead of doing that, we sit on our branches, clinging to
the things that are familiar to us. The possibilities are endless, but
for most of us, they remain undiscovered. We conform to the familiar,
the comfortable, the mundane. So for the most part, our lives are
mediocre instead of exciting, thrilling and fulfilling.

So let us learn to destroy the branch of fear we cling to and free
ourselves to the glory of flight.

Baby giraffes never go to school. But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life.

Baby giraffes never go to school. But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life. A lesson that all of us would do well to remember. The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event. The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something unbelievable happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground. As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up. Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson: Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet. Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival. Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet. If you study the lives of successful people though, you will see a recurring pattern.

Were they always successful in all they did? No. Did success come to them quick and easy? No, you will find that the common streak running through their lives is their ability to stand up every time they fall. The ability of the baby giraffe! The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles, and you are bound to fall sooner or later.

You will hit a road block, you will taste failure. But success lies in being able to get up every time you fall.

That’s a critical life skill. And it’s the habit of all successful people.

Trust..

People say with time things get normal. Things are back to normal or we start living with it so it appears normal to us? The situation arises when your trust is broken. I was just curious to know if once you have broken the trust, it can ever be fixed? It’s hard to reconstruct the trust and believe the person once you are hurt to your roots. And yes this opinion changes from person to person. It’s like a knot in a plain straight thread which is certainly going to obstruct sometime and will surely create problems. We come in this world, get a chance to grow in a confined lovely space we called as family. We share our joy, happiness, worries, dreams, pain, guilt, love and so many forms of emotions with our near and dear ones. We build trust and share strong bonding. To me Trust is a very big thing and if it’s repeatedly broken, it takes a long time to get it back again, or it can’t be earned back. We are responsible for our own deeds. What ever we do in whatever situation in whatever time brings out the personality of ours. People should set priorities in there life and should act according to it in order to have a peaceful life.

IF you have shown poor judgments, impulsiveness, immaturity, carelessness, and thoughtlessness, then be prepared to loose the person you have hurt. Trust once broken can never be restored as before. As a Human being we should all go through the ups and down in our lifes. It tests our strength and patience to deal with non-ideal and unfavorable situations.

Trust is hard to earn, and even harder to earn back once lost. Sometimes it is never won back, no matter how hard you try. So don’t promises for The MOON, if you can’t. Be truthful, things will automatically come with you.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

Hold The Hand

Bhagavad Gita Saar

Whatever happened, it happened for good.
Whatever is happening, is happening for good.
Whatever that will happen, it will be for good.
What have you lost for which you cry?
What did you bring with you, which you have lost?
What did you produce, which has destroyed?
You did not bring anything when you were born.
Whatever you have, you have received from Him.
Whatever you will give, you will give to Him.
You came empty handed and

you will go the same way.

Whatever is yours today was somebody else’s yesterday and  will be somebody else’s tomorrow.

Change is the law of the universe.

Be My Friend...

Memories always play a vital role in Human Life. Recently I get an opportunity to visit my educational land. I was very excited to meet my best friend. After spending so much of time together in hostel we are second family for each other. Cherishing all the wonderful year we spent during graduation makes me feel nostalgic. I wished we have never grownup and would have in same place forever. It reminded me of wonderful time I spent with my dearly friends. Starting from NUGH till LIT Campus, from sadar, bardi to DP all places has bunched of memories...Some good some bad but it reminds me of my roots in orange city. On the same time it reminded me of all my friends whom I had lost touch. We are now independent individuals with different sets of priorities. Some are in touch and some intentionally are not in touch. I hope they are reading this blog.

 I feel that we may have a huge misunderstanding but I certainly did not intend for it. It’s this very misunderstanding that is irreparably damaging the friendship. People Pl think twice before drawing any kind of meaning. One of my friend told me that if any one talks to you in an unpleasant manner give yourself time to think about it everyone in this world is not against you.

Friendship is one of the most beautiful relationships that two people can share. Friendship is about sharing our life. Friendship is about cherishing old memories of togetherness and creating new ones everyday. Sometimes due to several misunderstandings this beautiful relation gets affected. Two people who were once inseparable and have later moved on to part ways, what could’ve gone so terribly wrong between them that they can’t even stand each other? Can a friendship that starts with no sorry no thank you end on a bitter note? Most often when people look back at their broken friendships, they regret it.

So if you have a friend with whom you’ve fought or not in touch for some reason, then its time to give them a call. Life is too short to hold grudges and bitterness. Friends will remain friends ever no matter what. Give your friendship an another shot. Don’t wait for the other person to start, Initiate and bridge the gap. Make that one phone call. Mend that broken friendship.

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend."

SPREAD LOVE

 Something’s in life remains forever and some relations are treasured forever. There are some moments that broke you in pieces but bring a new out of you. Sometimes you fail to notice the ray of hope and sometimes you spend enough time looking at the closed door. Don’t be upset, a person can get used to anything if given enough time. Thank God for adding new sets of experience in your life book. Do respect the one who love and care for you. Some people in life are part of you, spend enough time with them, have some memorable and cherish able moments with them. Care for people because you can't live a perfect day without doing something good for someone. Make strong and friendly relation with people because they will never forget how you make them feel. Don’t let your loved one go. Never lose them because sooner or later you find them living in you. At last we all need to love and be loved.

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